Marriage Isn’t About Love…Just Hear Me Out
March 5, 2010
“Love and Marriage” is a pairing that sits next to ”Bread and Butter” and “Jack and Jill” in the Hall of Fame of famous duos.
However, marriage itself is not about love. The root definition of marriage is one man and one woman being the foundation of the family.
Love is most often a bond a man and woman share who seek marriage. Love also needs to be nurtured and strengthened in all marriages.
All that said, love doesn’t define marriage. As much as you would hope it would not occur, you can have a marriage without love being in the equation.
“Marriage is the civil status of one man and one woman united in law for life, for the discharge to each other and the community of the duties legally incumbent on those who association is founded on the distinction of sex” (Black’s Law Dictionary, 1891).
No matter your religion, ethnicity or culture, marriage rests upon the principle foundation of being the union of husband and wife.
When you go to get a marriage license, there isn’t a question that asks, “Are you in love?” No counselor waits to weigh the level of love each couple has to determine if they can marry.
When it comes to the public policy of marriage, love is not the root part of the equation. One man + One woman = Marriage. Why? It’s the only mechanism by which humanity continues to exist because it is the only union that can possibly produce children.
It’s no mystery why marriage has always been recognized as a union between husband and wife, has always been essential to society and should never be redefined in any way.
March 9th, 2010 at 9:57 am
What can you say to that? However, people do get married with the intention to never have children and I suppose the gay community could make that argument.
March 9th, 2010 at 11:44 am
“[Marriage is] the only mechanism by which humanity continues to exist because it is the only union that can possibly produce children.”
That is simply not true, and a bold-faced lie. People have children outside of marriage all of the time, every single day. Period.
March 11th, 2010 at 9:01 pm
It may be true that children are born out of wedlock, unfortunate for those children in that situation which is the cause for much heartache and numerous other things that cost us as a society a lot of wasted money and many wasted lives. Keeping childbirth inside of marriage has proven to be the best for the child,less drug abuse, more productive adults.
May 21st, 2010 at 9:12 pm
It may be true that children are born out of wedlock, unfortunate for those children in that situation which is the cause for much heartache and numerous other things that cost us as a society a lot of wasted money and many wasted lives. Keeping childbirth inside of marriage has proven to be the best for the child,less drug abuse, more productive adults.